In this episode, you are going to learn how to have amazing sex, deeper intimacy, and create real, lasting love. If you’re not having sex, or if sex feels like one more thing on the to-do list, this is what you need to hear right now. Today, Mel sits down with Dr. Nicole McNichols, PhD, a University of Washington professor who teaches the most popular class on campus – which is about human sexuality. There is a reason she is the country’s #1 sex professor. Her message is simple: nothing is “wrong” with you. You were just never taught how desire actually works, what turns you on, or how women’s pleasure is even designed. Dr. McNichols will change the way you think about arousal, orgasm, and intimacy, including the mind-blowing truth that women’s anatomy has been misunderstood for decades. Did you know the clitoris wasn’t fully mapped until the early 2000s? This episode is the sex advice women actually need. This is not another conversation about how to please your partner, it’s not about performing, pushing through, or “fixing” yourself. It’s about pleasure, connection, and learning the skills that make sex feel good again at any age, and in real life. You will learn: -Why desire often shows up after you start, and what to do when you love your partner but “don’t feel like it” -The biggest sex misconception keeping couples stuck (and how to rebuild without pressure) -What most people never learned about the clitoris, arousal, and why penetrative sex alone isn’t the main path to orgasm -How to stop faking orgasms and start communicating in ways that actually work -The simplest way to rebuild intimacy when you’re exhausted, stressed, or parenting with zero privacy -What to do if menopause, dryness, or pain is making sex feel impossible (and why you should not just “live with it”) -How to get out of your head if body image has hijacked your sex life -How to date again and rebuild confidence after a long dry spell, without forcing yourself into hookups If you’ve ever thought, “I’m too tired,” “I love them but I’m not in the mood,” “It hurts,” “My body changed,” or “It’s been so long I don’t even know where to start,” this episode will give you language, relief, and a way forward. Dr. McNichols’ book is You Could Be Having Better Sex and after this conversation, you will. For more resources related to today’s episode, click here for the podcast episode page: https://www.melrobbins.com/episode/episode-369/ Follow The Mel Robbins Podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themelrobbinspodcast I’m just your friend. I am not a licensed therapist, and this podcast is NOT intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional. Got it? Good. I’ll see you in the next episode. In this episode: 00:00 Meet the Guest 5:49 The Science-Backed Health Benefits of Great Sex 13:12 You Can Get Better in Bed: Simple Habits That Improve Your Sex Life 21:48 Foreplay Tips 23:46 The Orgasm Gap 26:57 Does Penis Size Matter? 28:06 How Long Does It Take to Orgasm? 30:35 How to Stop Faking Orgasms: What to Say to Your Partner 36:47 How to Improve Sex in a Long-Term Relationship 41:00 Sexual Fantasies Explained: Does a Fantasy Mean You Really Want It? 48:07 Is Sexuality Fluid? Exploring Attraction, Identity, and Sexual Orientation 50:53 Kink 101: How to Add Kink Into Your Sex Life 53:40 How to Find the Clitoris: A Simple, Accurate Guide 1:01:14 A Guide to Clitoral Orgasms: How to Give and Receive Pleasure 1:08:48 Painful Sex During Menopause: Causes, Solutions, and What Helps 1:17:11 Navigating Hookup Culture: How to Explore Casual Sex Without Forcing It 1:24:11 Do Only Men Want Casual Sex? The Truth About Desire (Men vs. Women) 1:25:51 How Busy Parents Can Rebuild Intimacy With No Time or Privacy 1:29:50 Overcoming Body Image Anxiety During Sex — Follow Mel: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@melrobbins Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melrobbins LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melrobbins Website: http://melrobbins.com​ — Sign up for Mel’s newsletter: https://melrob.co/sign-up-newsletter A note from Mel to you, twice a week, sharing simple, practical ways to build the life you want. — Subscribe to Mel’s channel here: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins​?sub_confirmation=1 — Listen to The Mel Robbins Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every Monday & Thursday! https://melrob.co/spotify https://melrob.co/applepodcasts https://melrob.co/amazonmusic — Looking for Mel’s books on Amazon? Find them here: The Let Them Theory: https://amzn.to/3IQ21Oe The Let Them Theory Audiobook: https://amzn.to/413SObp The High 5 Habit: https://amzn.to/3fMvfPQ The 5 Second Rule: https://amzn.to/4l54fah

Some days, you don’t just feel off. You feel like you’re losing your control of everything. The routine is gone. The house is a mess. Motivation is shot. And suddenly one bad day turns into a week of feeling behind. This episode is the reset you need. Today Mel is sharing 5 simple, science-backed ways to create quick wins and real momentum – one tiny step at a time – so you go from overwhelmed and scattered to clear, grounded, and back in control. These aren’t big life changes. They’re small moves that make a surprisingly big difference to shift your direction so you can feel like you again. You’ll learn: -The 5-minute move that instantly quiets your mental noise and makes everything feel more doable -How tidying up your environment can make your whole brain exhale (and why it works) -The one physical shift that quietly changes your mood and momentum -Why waiting for motivation keeps you stuck, and what works instead -The simple “future you” trick that makes tomorrow feel 10% easier -The nightly question that sends you to bed with a smile, boosts your confidence, and rewires your brain for success If you’ve been stuck in a funk, feeling behind, procrastinating more than usual, or letting life stack up on top of you, this is the clean, one-day reset that will have you saying, “I’m back.” You can turn things around at any time. This is where you start. For more resources related to today’s episode, click here for the podcast episode page: https://www.melrobbins.com/episode/episode-368. Follow The Mel Robbins Podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themelrobbinspodcast I’m just your friend. I am not a licensed therapist, and this podcast is NOT intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional. Got it? Good. I’ll see you in the next episode. In this episode: 8:01 Stop Overthinking: Clear Mental Clutter 17:03 How to Declutter Your Space (5-Minute Reset) 26:07 Why Movement Helps Anxiety + Stress 36:35 How to Stay Consistent With Your Goals 44:51 Build Confidence Before Bed: The 1-Minute Win Habit — Follow Mel: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@melrobbins Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melrobbins LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melrobbins Website: http://melrobbins.com​ — Sign up for Mel’s newsletter: https://melrob.co/sign-up-newsletter A note from Mel to you, twice a week, sharing simple, practical ways to build the life you want. — Subscribe to Mel’s channel here: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins​?sub_confirmation=1 — Listen to The Mel Robbins Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every Monday & Thursday! https://melrob.co/spotify https://melrob.co/applepodcasts https://melrob.co/amazonmusic — Looking for Mel’s books on Amazon? Find them here: The Let Them Theory: https://amzn.to/3IQ21Oe The Let Them Theory Audiobook: https://amzn.to/413SObp The High 5 Habit: https://amzn.to/3fMvfPQ The 5 Second Rule: https://amzn.to/4l54fah In this episode: 8:01 Stop Overthinking: Clear Mental Clutter 17:03 How to Declutter Your Space (5-Minute Reset) 26:07 Why Movement Helps Anxiety + Stress 36:35 How to Stay Consistent With Your Goals 44:51 Build Confidence Before Bed: The 1-Minute Win Habit

Ever stood in front of the fridge thinking, “What am I actually supposed to eat to get healthy?” Today you are getting your answer. This episode gives you a simple way to decide what to eat to stay healthy without complicated math, crazy recipes, or “bro science”. In this episode, Mel sits down with Dr. Amy Shah, MD. Dr. Shah is a leading expert in the role nutrition plays in health, longevity, and hormone regulation. She has been in clinical practice for 22 years as a double-board certified medical doctor with specializations in nutrition, internal medicine, and immunology. She has a degree in nutrition and trained at Cornell University, Harvard University, and Columbia University. She is the author of two bestselling books about nutrition, hormones, and lifestyle changes, including her newest book, Hormone Havoc. She’s also one of your favorite experts to ever appear on this show – and today she’s back with a brand new episode to give you a simple, science-backed framework you can remember even on your busiest day. It’s called 30/30/3. It’s designed to help you feel better fast, support your hormones, stabilize your energy, and make meals simpler without tracking, obsessing, or living on willpower. Mel and Dr. Shah talk about why these matter for women’s bodies and hormones, how to make it realistic with normal groceries, and what small shifts can start changing how you feel faster than you’d expect. By the end, you’ll know what to eat today to support your body, and the foods you should avoid. In this episode, you’ll learn: -The 30/30/3 protocol: 30g protein in your first meal, 30g fiber per day, 3 probiotic foods daily -Why protein is for more than muscles: it supports mood, focus, gut lining, and energy and cuts your cravings -The quick label trick to spot foods that claim protein but don’t deliver -Common “health foods” that quietly sabotage your goals. -How fiber impacts hormones, inflammation, and brain health -The probiotic foods that actually count (and why probiotic pills often don’t work) -Tiny food upgrades that can help your gut health improve quickly -How to eat healthy without tracking your life or living on salads. Almost all “healthy eating” advice is either confusing, unrealistic, or focused on getting smaller, not getting stronger, happier, and energized. This is a simple, research-backed roadmap that makes healthy eating finally feel doable. If you want clarity, simplicity, and a plan you’ll remember tomorrow, start here. For more resources related to today’s episode, click here for the podcast episode page: https://www.melrobbins.com/episode/episode-367/ To learn more about Pure Genius Protein, which Mel and Dr. Amy Shah discuss during the episode, click here: http://puregeniusprotein.com/MP Follow The Mel Robbins Podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themelrobbinspodcast I’m just your friend. I am not a licensed therapist, and this podcast is NOT intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional. Got it? Good. I’ll see you in the next episode. In this episode: 00:00 Meet the Guest 8:33 Why Having Protein Is So Important 11:16 Why Women Need More Protein Than They Think 15:05 The Surprising Benefits of Protein 16:54 How to Calculate How Much Protein You Need 22:12 5 High Protein Foods For Busy Days 28:01 Quick and Easy Protein Options for Busy Mornings 32:17 A Simple Hack to Tell If a Food Is Actually High in Protein 39:02 How to Read Nutrition Labels: Protein, Sugar, Fiber, and Serving Sizes 46:12 Why Fiber Is So Important 48:28 9 High Fiber Foods for Busy People 1:00:51 Probiotic Foods & Their Benefits — Follow Mel: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@melrobbins Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melrobbins LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melrobbins Website: http://melrobbins.com​ — Sign up for Mel’s newsletter: https://melrob.co/sign-up-newsletter A note from Mel to you, twice a week, sharing simple, practical ways to build the life you want. — Subscribe to Mel’s channel here: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins​?sub_confirmation=1 — Listen to The Mel Robbins Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every Monday & Thursday! https://melrob.co/spotify https://melrob.co/applepodcasts https://melrob.co/amazonmusic — Looking for Mel’s books on Amazon? Find them here: The Let Them Theory: https://amzn.to/3IQ21Oe The Let Them Theory Audiobook: https://amzn.to/413SObp The High 5 Habit: https://amzn.to/3fMvfPQ The 5 Second Rule: https://amzn.to/4l54fah

This episode is for you: the person holding everything together. If your days are packed with work, caregiving, and nonstop demands, this is what you need to hear right now. Today, Mel sits down with one of the world’s leading experts on time management, Laura Vanderkam. She’s a New York Times bestselling author, a researcher who’s studied thousands of real schedules, a mom of five, and a total realist about how busy life can get. Laura Vanderkam’s approach isn’t “do more.” Laura’s not selling hacks. She gives you a clearer map of your days and a few small changes that reduce the chaos and help you feel more in control. When you’re maxed out, Laura says you don’t need “more time,” you need to stop spending your limited time on default. Laura helps you see the small, real openings in your week and she shows you exactly what to do with them so you feel less trapped and a little more in control. This is not a lecture about hustling harder or optimizing your life. It’s a practical reset that will help you feel less behind and it will lighten your load fast. You will: -Find hidden pockets of time already in your schedule -Choose what matters most (without guilt) -Use one habit that creates more breathing room -Make space for what you keep putting off (even with a full-time job) -End your day with more energy instead of more exhaustion If you’ve ever thought, “I have no free time,” “I’m always behind,” or “I don’t even know where to start,” this episode will change the way you look at your week and help you take back a little more control. Because when your time feels calmer, everything feels a little more doable. And when you learn to take control of your time, you start taking control of your life. For more resources related to today’s episode, click here for the podcast episode page: Follow The Mel Robbins Podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themelrobbinspodcast I’m just your friend. I am not a licensed therapist, and this podcast is NOT intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional. Got it? Good. I’ll see you in the next episode. In this episode: 00:00: Meet The Guest 9:17 The Simplest Time Management Tool 21:00 The Ideal Time You Should Do Your Weekly Planning 36:13 How to Overcome Your 3pm Energy Crash 47:04 How To Actually Stick to Productive Habits 51:19 Why You Don’t Follow Through on Goals (And the Fix) 54:09 The Fix to Make Your Life More Exciting 1:00:04 Making Time for Yourself When You Are Busy 1:07:04 The #1 Tool to Stop Procrastinating 1:11:14 Why Hobbies Make You More Successful — Follow Mel: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@melrobbins Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melrobbins LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melrobbins Website: http://melrobbins.com​ — Sign up for Mel’s newsletter: https://melrob.co/sign-up-newsletter A note from Mel to you, twice a week, sharing simple, practical ways to build the life you want. — Subscribe to Mel’s channel here: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins​?sub_confirmation=1 — Listen to The Mel Robbins Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every Monday & Thursday! https://melrob.co/spotify https://melrob.co/applepodcasts https://melrob.co/amazonmusic — Looking for Mel’s books on Amazon? Find them here: The Let Them Theory: https://amzn.to/3IQ21Oe The Let Them Theory Audiobook: https://amzn.to/413SObp The High 5 Habit: https://amzn.to/3fMvfPQ The 5 Second Rule: https://amzn.to/4l54fah

In today’s episode, you’re going to hear a conversation that will help you find meaning again - especially if you’ve been feeling lost, stuck, stretched thin, or quietly wondering, “Does any of this even matter?” Joining Mel is Ocean Vuong - one of the most acclaimed writers of our time and the bestselling author of On Earth We’re Briefly Gorgeous. His newest book, The Emperor of Gladness, moved Mel so deeply she knew she had to bring him on the podcast - because Ocean has a rare gift: he puts words to feelings you’ve had, but never knew how to say out loud. Ocean is an award-winning poet, a MacArthur Fellowship “Genius Grant” recipient, and a professor at NYU. He writes and speaks about grief, love, identity, hardship, and hope with an honesty that doesn’t just hit… it stays with you. This episode is an invitation to pause, reset, and reconnect with yourself. It will help you stop judging where you are, release the pressure you’re carrying, and remember that you don’t need to become someone else to be worthy - or to build a meaningful life. Even if you’ve never read Ocean’s work, this conversation will feel like someone finally handed you the words you’ve been searching for. In this episode, you’ll learn: -How to find meaning even when you behind in life -How to move through grief without shutting down and let beauty exist alongside pain -Why chasing who you “should” be is keeping you stuck and how to come back to yourself -How to reconnect with yourself when you’ve been in survival mode for too long -How to feel calmer and more grounded when life feels uncertain - How to reprogram your mind for more positive thinking By the end of this episode, you’ll feel more hopeful, more centered, and more at peace with where you are - with permission to be exactly who you are, right now. For more resources related to today’s episode, click here for the podcast episode page: https://www.melrobbins.com/episode/episode-364/ Order Mel’s new product, Pure Genius Protein: http://puregeniusprotein.com/MP Follow The Mel Robbins Podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themelrobbinspodcast I’m just your friend. I am not a licensed therapist, and this podcast is NOT intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional. Got it? Good. I’ll see you in the next episode. In this episode: 00:00 Meet the Guest 04:20 Ocean Vuong on How Language Shapes The World Around Us 09:22 Ocean Vuong Shares The Effects of Growing Up in Poverty 16:44 How to Turn Shame into Motivation According to Ocean Vuong 28:15 How to Make The Most of Your Life 46:30 Reconnect With Your Younger Self & Get Clear on Your Intentions 55:51 Ocean Vuong on 'Cringe Culture' and How It Holds Us Back 1:02:23 The Moments That Actually Matter at the End of Your Life 1:14:01 What is The Difference Between Kindness vs Empathy — Follow Mel: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@melrobbins Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melrobbins LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melrobbins Website: http://melrobbins.com​ — Sign up for Mel’s newsletter: https://melrob.co/sign-up-newsletter A note from Mel to you, twice a week, sharing simple, practical ways to build the life you want. — Subscribe to Mel’s channel here: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins​?sub_confirmation=1 — Listen to The Mel Robbins Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every Monday & Thursday! https://melrob.co/spotify https://melrob.co/applepodcasts https://melrob.co/amazonmusic — Looking for Mel’s books on Amazon? Find them here: The Let Them Theory: https://amzn.to/3IQ21Oe The Let Them Theory Audiobook: https://amzn.to/413SObp The High 5 Habit: https://amzn.to/3fMvfPQ The 5 Second Rule: https://amzn.to/4l54fah

In today’s episode, you’ll learn how to get motivated, even when you don’t feel like it. If you feel unmotivated, scatter brained, or exhausted… If you keep reaching for your phone, wine, or the remote even when you want to stop… If you’re frustrated with yourself for lacking discipline…. This conversation will help you stop wasting time and finally understand why it’s so hard to do the things you know you should do. Joining Mel today is Dr. Anna Lembke, MD, who is the world’s leading expert on dopamine and compulsive behavior. Dr. Lembke is a professor of psychiatry and addiction medicine at Stanford University, chief of Stanford’s Addiction Medicine Dual Diagnosis Clinic. But even with all of her knowledge, she will share with you: she also falls into the same traps you do! In this episode, Dr. Lembke explains the truth most people don’t understand: Modern life has trained your brain to chase constant dopamine hits, and that’s why motivation, focus, and joy feel harder than ever. But here’s the good news: you can reset your brain. Dr. Lembke walks you through the science of dopamine, pain, pleasure, and motivation, and shares a practical protocol for rebuilding focus, energy, and self-control in a world designed to hijack your attention. In this episode, you’ll learn: -The “pleasure–pain seesaw” that explains why you keep reaching for the thing you swear you’re done with -How dopamine really works (and why chasing pleasure backfires) -The hidden reason scrolling, snacking, and multitasking make you feel worse, not better -The simple but powerful way to rebalance pleasure and pain -What to do when you feel stuck in compulsive habits you “can’t quit” This is not a conversation about shame, addiction labels, or self-control. It’s about taking your brain back. If you want more energy, clarity, and motivation, and if you’re ready to stop fighting yourself and start working with your brain, this episode is for you. For more resources related to today’s episode, click here for the podcast episode page: https://www.melrobbins.com/episode/episode-363/ Follow The Mel Robbins Podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themelrobbinspodcast I’m just your friend. I am not a licensed therapist, and this podcast is NOT intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional. Got it? Good. I’ll see you in the next episode. In this episode: 00:00 Meet the Guest 02:40 Your Brain Is Addicted to Easy Pleasure 08:37 How the Brain Balances Pleasure and Pain 15:56 Understanding the Different Types of Addiction 27:49 We Are All Addicted To Something 41:12 Dopamine And The Pleasure Pain Balance 43:30 The Power of Discomfort 50:37 Guide to Creating a Dopamine Detox 01:12:47 The Power of Boredom — Follow Mel: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@melrobbins Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melrobbins LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melrobbins Website: http://melrobbins.com​ — Sign up for Mel’s newsletter: https://melrob.co/sign-up-newsletter A note from Mel to you, twice a week, sharing simple, practical ways to build the life you want. — Subscribe to Mel’s channel here: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins​?sub_confirmation=1 — Listen to The Mel Robbins Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every Monday & Thursday! https://melrob.co/spotify https://melrob.co/applepodcasts https://melrob.co/amazonmusic — Looking for Mel’s books on Amazon? Find them here: The Let Them Theory: https://amzn.to/3IQ21Oe The Let Them Theory Audiobook: https://amzn.to/413SObp The High 5 Habit: https://amzn.to/3fMvfPQ The 5 Second Rule: https://amzn.to/4l54fah